'My honey, my honey. L'ori iro!' Love is overrated in sustaining marriages

It is a known fact that the sustenance of any marriage does not solely rely on the strong feeling of love, but love being overrated in the sustenance of any existing marriage is our bone of contention.

The strong emotional feeling of loving someone has to be the most exciting and bubbling feeling one can ever experience in this world; a great interest and pleasure you derive in someone. In the case of the opposite gender; attraction is the force that connects two persons and ultimately brings about this heartfelt happiness, inward joy and an expressive cheerfulness. Sometimes, it is irresistible and a strong chemistry keeps exerting energy to connect both persons.

With all these being established, should love still remain overrated in sustaining marriages? Maybe not necessarily but in clear terms, this article will further detail why love as a bond between two lovers is not enough to sustain the longevity of their love life.

In the real sense of it, love is just the initial force of connection and most probably one factor of sustenance but it will be false to make love wear the crown.

Every marriage is primarily purposed for companionship which gives room to compatibility, compromise, capitulation, mutual cooperation, understanding, respect amongst many others. There is much more to marriage than the mere feeling of love, which is just capable of triggering the awakening of the desire of a relationship or marriage.

Every marriage undergoes real life experiences hence why we need to put aside imaginary romance; real life experiences bring about situations that can trigger an outpour of emotions such as anger, pain, hurt, guilt, irritations and so on. The expression of these emotions might not come in the likely manner the recipient would have loved or is used to which can in turn cause an outrage.

In such situation, would love come to play to revive the marriage? It can be an underlying feeling but beyond that, a factor such as understanding and compromise can effectively deaden the situation.

The older we grow, the more our exposure and the realities we get to experience. Buttressing this, some realities weigh in on marriages, such as childbirth and rearing, nature of jobs, societal expectations and many others. In balancing marriage and life, sometimes one can get overwhelmed or outgrow the love one has for his or her partner.

Different strokes for different folks I guess but imploring the earlier mentioned factors and other relatable ones, with conscious and consistent efforts from both parties, is definitely the ultimate key to sustaining a marriage and building a solid love life.

This article is not written to undermine the power of love though. It is to essentially state that love is overrated because it is not enough to sustain a marriage.

For marriages that have gone through storms and the test of time, other major life supporting factors have been placed to enhance love; which is the initial and primary factor to have a marriage in the first place.

Falling in love can be the easiest slide to embark on; but sustaining the flow as much as the start of it deserves much more than that spark of love.