Penis size is so relative, really. I mean, obviously some people are packing large and that can be something that’s gonna make you swoon, or the kind of large where you actively have to do stuff to ensure you don’t get hurt. (If so, here are some positions to try if you’re working with some extra long and/or thick penile equipment.)

On the other end of the penis scale is the micropenis, a relatively rare creature, with the officially accepted definition of being 2 ¾ inches or less. (And if your SO is sporting a MP—or a even a semi-MP, these positions for a micro penis will help rock your world.) Most penises are somewhere in between, maybe kinda large, maybe kinda small. What matters is how you deal with what y’all got dealt.

The relative part is more about how you two fit together. According to the Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian sex and relationship guide (like a way early version of Cosmo but in Sanskrit and less stuff about super hot sex toys), penises are categorized as hares (that’s the micro to small category), bulls (the medium category) and horses (the whoa!-that’s-big category). Vaginas are deer (small), mares (medium) or elephant (large). Each combination has different things you can do to sex that @#$#@ up.

Whether you’re an elephant or mare and your resident penis is a hare, you gots options, my friend. These positions work excellently with your differently hung dude.

1 Oh Butt Yes

If you’re interested in anal but haven’t actually gone for it yet, now’s the time. Your partner’s smaller member will be easier to take and your bum might be a tighter fit for them. Make it a win-win by rocking a rabbit-style toy between your legs to feel fully filled in a really incredible way

2 The Super Sucker

Deep throating is much better—less gaggy!—with a smaller peen. To do it, take the soon-to-be-very-lucky penis in your mouth as deeply as you can then, when you think you’ve reached your limit, try relaxing your throat and you’ll be able to take a bit more. Being on your knees before them heightens the I-am-servicing-you vibe if you’re feeling that. Later, they can repay you with their (hopefully, extra well developed) oral skills as well.

3 The Seated Swoon

Sit on their lap and lean back. Have your partner rub your clit with their fingers while you thrust with short smooth strokes. If you have an orgasm before they do (yes, please), move forward and change up your thrusts–thrust along the top of their shaft then switch to stroke along the bottom. Such good rubbing ~everywhere~.

4 The Faux F*ck

Non-penetrative sex can feel even better than P-in-V for lots of clit havers because it gives direct stimulation to the aforementioned clit. For some P on V, lie on your back, elevate your pelvis with a pillow or two and curl your legs up. Lube up and your partner slides the under shaft of their penis along your vulva. They can press hard and grind against you, tease you by making circles around your clit with their head, or you can make a little lubey f*ck tunnel with your hand by encircling top and sides of their penis while they glide their shaft against you. If they want to go all in, that works too and/or they can switch between inner and outer fuckery ’til you both can’t take it.

5 The Deeper Dog

Doggie is great for smaller equipment because y’all can go deep. To hit the maximum depths, lower your head onto the pillow and arch your back so your butt’s tilted up for focused g-spot stim. For a tighter fit, squeeze your PC muscles around them with every thrust.

6 The Slippery Mermaid

Switch positions in missionary so you’re on top, with your legs pressed together between his. Support your weight with your hands, and have him slide in between your legs to enter you. Since he’s on the bottom, he can thrust extra deep inside you, and you’ll get the clit-stimulating benefits of girl-on-top. Plus the weird power reversal vibe makes this feel a bit subversive which can be super hot.

7 The Really Good Dog

Doggie style is great for those with a small-penised partner, because he can penetrate you as deep as possible. You can also change your position to make you both feel like you’re taking him more deeply. Try resting your head all the way down onto the bed or arching your back ’til he’s hitting you in exactly. The. Right. Spot.

8 The Slow Slider

Missionary turns into a whole different sexy slide-y beast if you just clamp your legs together tightly. Rock your hips slowly and you will slide up on down on his penis in a completely delightful manner. Turn your knees in to change up the angle and you both will swoon. Guaranteed.

9 The Press ‘N Play

Lean over the edge of the bed, presenting your ass fetchingly. He gets one hell of a view, and doggy style lets him take you super deeply, using your hips for extra leverage. Hell-ooo vaginal orgasm.

10 The Mortar and Pestle

In-and-out can be kinda meh with a smaller member, so try a circular grinding motion for more amazingness. Get on your back, tuck a pillow under your butt, and open your legs wide. Have him enter you and grind against each other, rubbing your clit against his pubic bone, and letting your moans and movements tell him how much you’re liking it. (And oh, you so will be liking it.)