Actress says many Nigerians keep their sexual interests private while urging couples to prioritise honest communication and compatibility
Actress and adult entertainment consultant Seyi Hunter has shared her views on Nigerians’ attitudes towards sexuality, arguing that many people privately consume sexual content while publicly presenting a more conservative image because of social and religious expectations.
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Speaking in an interview with Saturday Beats, Hunter reflected on what she described as the country’s complicated relationship with intimacy, saying the contrast between public behaviour and private interests has become increasingly evident, particularly online.
Speaking from her perspective, Hunter said she would not describe the trend as outright hypocrisy but rather as a reflection of how many Nigerians navigate societal expectations.
“I won’t call it hypocrisy; I’ll say Nigerians are private people. It’s like most of us, not me, are living double lives.
People often feel the need to present themselves in ways that align with societal or religious expectations, even when their private interests are different,” she said.
The actress pointed to the popularity of adult content as an example of what she believes is a disconnect between public attitudes and private behaviour.
“There’s a reason we are always topping charts on porn sites, but nobody admits they watch them.
Before I lost my first Sinful Friday channel on Xvideos, it had over a billion views. Who was watching? People pretend a lot, but Gen Z are breaking that stereotype,” Hunter said.
Her remarks come amid broader conversations about changing attitudes towards sexuality among younger Nigerians.
While discussions around sex remain sensitive in many parts of the country because of cultural and religious values, social media has created more spaces for open conversations about relationships, intimacy and personal experiences.
Beyond her observations on public attitudes, Hunter stressed that healthy communication remains the powerful foundation of sexual compatibility between partners.
According to Hunter, attraction alone is rarely enough to sustain an intimate relationship without honest conversations about individual needs and expectations.
“If you are sexually compatible with your partner, all you need is communication to get the ball rolling. Always let your partner know what you want, and always explore.
Fifty per cent of sex and intimacy is communication. Even if there’s a deeper issue, you’ll never know without communication,” she said.
Hunter also reflected on one of her own relationships, saying physical attraction did not translate into emotional or physical compatibility.
“I dated someone I liked, but every time he touched me, it felt like he was using pins on my skin,” she added.
Hunter has previously spoken publicly about sexuality, relationships and the adult entertainment industry, often encouraging more candid discussions around subjects that remain controversial in mainstream Nigerian society.
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Her latest comments are likely to generate fresh debate, with supporters arguing that greater openness can improve relationship health, while critics may contend that discussions around sexuality should continue to reflect Nigeria’s prevailing cultural and religious values.
Quadri Olaitan is a journalist and contributor to Freelanews.com, covering news, public affairs, and human-interest stories.
